Showing posts with label Companionship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Companionship. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Free Companionship

the Free Companionship and it’s related Ceremony.

    There is no marriage as we know it on Gor, but there is the institution of free companionship, which is its nearest correspondent. Surprisingly enough, a woman who is bought from her parents, for tarns of gold, is regarded as a free companion, even though she may not have been insulted in the transaction. More commendably, a free woman may herself, of her own free will, agree to be such a companion. Such relationships are not entered into lightly, and they are normally sundered only by death. Outlaw of Gor , p 54

*lifts her head and feels the need for a comment. You can read it in that quote…don’t enter a Free Companionship lightly.  Some women out there seem to believe it is the only thing worth living for on Gor, they seem to feel only half fulfilled as long as they don’t have a Free Companion or even came to Gor only for that reason. But – if you are going to do rp, which is at least in some respect close to the books, then it is a serious matter. So ask yourself if the man you found is the one you would like to stay with on Gor for at least one year. Or maybe you want this not for role play reasons but rather as an expression of the true and real love you are longing for to find via the world wide web. Finally it is up to you two, who decided to live and role play to be Free Companions, just be aware if your interests fit, to avoid a mixture of IC/OOC-Drama in the end. *lowers her view focussing the parchments again and sorting her book quotes

The Free Companionship is pretty common in the most gorean Cities except Port Kar.
    “Port Kar does not recognize the Free Companionship, but there are free women in the city, who are known simply as the women of their men.” Raiders of Gor, p. 295

The Free Companionship isn’t always a matter of love, It also can be an arranged Companionship.
An example for an arranged one:
    The Lady Sabina, I learned from Eta, was pledged by her father, Kleomenes, a pretentious, but powerful, upstart merchant of Fortress of Saphronicus, to Thandar of Ti, of the Warriors, youngest of the five sons of Ebullius Gaius Cassius, of the Warriors, Administrator of Ti, this done in a Companion Contract, arranged by both Ebullius Gaius Cassius and Kleomenes, to which had now been set the seals of both Ti and Fortress of Saphronicus. The pledged companions, the Lady Sabina of Fortress of Saphronicus and Thandar of Ti, of the Four Cities of Saleria, of the Salerian Confederation, had, as yet, according to Eta, never laid eyes on one another, the matter of their match having been arranged between their respective fathers, as is not uncommon in Gorean custom. The match had been initiated at the behest of Kleomenes, who was interested in negotiating a commercial and political alliance with the Salerian Confederation. These alliances, of interest to the expanding Salerian Confederation, were not unwelcome. Such alliances, naturally, might presage the entrance of Fortress of Saphronicus into the Confederation, which was becoming a growing power in the north. It seemed not unlikely that the match would ultimately prove profitable and politically expedient for both Fortress of Saphronicus and the Salerian Confederation. In the match, there was much to gain by both parties. The Companion Contract, thus, had been duly negotiated, with the attention of scribes of the law from both Fortress of Saphronicus and the Confederation of Saleria. The Companion Journey, then, when the auspices had been favorable, as they promptly were, these determined by the inspection of the condition and nature of the liver of a sacrificial verr, examined by members of the caste of Initiates, had begun. The journey itself, overland and afoot from Fortress of Saphronicus to Ti, would take several days, but it was ceremonially prolonged in order that the four tributary villages of Fortress of Saphronicus might be visited. … The Betrothal or Companion Journey, ceremonially, included the circuit of the four villages, in each of which a feast was held, and from each of which a wagon of produce was procured, to be added to the dowry riches to be presented to Ebullius Gains Cassius, father of Thandar of Ti, to be included in the treasury of Ti. I had seen four wagons of produce in the camp, and knew independently from Eta, that the four tributary villages had now been visited. The wagons of produce were not of great value but stood as token of the relation of the villages to Fortress of Saphronicus. Also, of course, visiting the villages presented die opportunity for publicizing the match and, doubtless, unobtrusively, in the feasting and celebration, for gathering the reaction, and general feelings, of the villages. Are they content? Is trouble brewing? Must a leader be deposed, or Imprisoned? Must a daughter be taken hostage to the city? Accurate information on the oppressed is essential to the maintenance of the power of the oppressor. Slave Girl of Gor, p. 111-112

But you find it entered into voluntarily by both parties just between lovers too*smiles and whispers..I love that next quote^^
    Talena looked into my eyes. "What will you do with me?" she asked.
    "I will take you to Ko-ro-ba," I said, "to my city"
    "As your slave?" she smiled.
    "If you will have me," I said, "as my Free Companion."
    "I accept, Tarl of Ko-ro-ba by," said Talena with love in her eyes. "I accept you as my Free Companion."
    "If you did not." I laughed, "I would throw you across my saddle and carry you to Ko-ro-ba by force."
    She laughed as I swept her from her feet and lifted her to the saddle of my giant tarn. In the saddle, her arms were around my neck, her lips on mine.
    "Are you a true warrior?" she asked, her eyes bright with mischief, testing me, her voice breathless.
    "We shall see," I laughed. Then, in accord with the rude bridal customs of Gor, as she furiously but playfully struggled, as she squirmed and protested and pretended to resist, I bound her bodily across the saddle of the tarn. Her wrists and ankles were secured, and she lay before me, arched over the saddle, helpless, a captive, but of love and her own free will. The warriors laughed, Marlenus the loudest.
    "It seems I belong to you, bold Tarnsman," she said. "What are you going to do with me?"
    In answer, I hauled on the one-strap, and the great bird rose into the air, higher and higher, even into the clouds, and she cried to me,
    "Let it be now, Tarl," and even before we had passed the outermost ramparts of Ar, I had untied her ankles and flung her single garment to the streets below, to show her people what had been the fate of the daugher of their Ubar. Tarnsman of Gor , p 213
    When I returned to Ko-ro-ba with Talena, a great feast was held and we celebrated our Free Companionship. A holiday was declared, and the city was ablaze with light and song. Shimmering strings of bells pealed in the wind, and festive lanterns of a thousand colors swung from the innumerable flower-strewn bridges. There was shouting, and laughter, and the glorious colors of the castes of Gor mingled equally in the cylinders.
    Gone for the night was even the distinction of master and slave, and many a wretch in bondage would see the dawn as a free man. To my delight, even Torm , of the Caste of Scribes, appeared at the tables, I was honored that the little scribe had separated himself from his beloved scrolls long enough to share my happiness, only that of a warrior. He was wearing a new robe and sandals, perhaps for the first time in my years. He clasped my hands, and, to my wonder, the little scribe was crying. And then in his joy, he turned to Talena and in gracious salute lifted the symbolic cup of Ka-la-na wine to her beauty.
    Talena and I swore to honor that day as long as either of us lived. I have tried to keep that promise, and I know that she has done so as well. That night, that glorious night, was a night of flowers, torches, and Ka-la-na wine, and late, after sweet hours of love, we fell asleep in each other's arms. Tarnsman of Gor , p 216

A Scribe in Port Kar *grumbles..missed his name.. said something in a notecard about the courtship and it is for some of you maybe interesting to know:

The Courtship
A Free Man has been coming around a lot lately. He is very nice to You, compliments You, and starts bringing You presents. He talks to You more than He talks to the slaves. Chances are, He's interested and is trying to decide how to "make the first move". Of course, You two could have been cybering in IM for days already. What I am here to explain is the Courtship process.
If You are receptive to His intentions, find out what those intentions are! You could be the next slave He's looking at. (Read the Scroll again on Free Men). But if everything is on the up and up, He will approach Your Father, eldest Male member of Your family, or in their absence, the Jarl/Adminstrator/Ubar and declare His intention to court You.
Courting should be done in public, with a chaperone, if You keep to the standard of a demure, chaste and modest Free Woman of Gor. Believe Me, that is how You want to be portrayed. Act slutty, and You may find a ring of steel around Your neck instead of a ring of gold on Your finger. (remark by Laja: as far as I know you won’t change rings in the ceremony)
What's allowed in public? Soft glances, warm looks of love, hand holding, walks together, sitting together, anything that slaves do NOT do. No lap sitting, passionate kissing, groping or fondling.

Being Intended
The next step is to be "Intended".. The profile shows all of Gor You two are engaged. Other Free Man will probably not approach now, as You are sort of spoken for.

*sighs slightly …..I fear I wouldn’t be a Scribe if I would forget to mention those parts:

Negotiations and Contract

You see…there is a need for some negotiations before you set the date. You need to get to know the bride price, the contract needs to be discussed which each part before you announce a date and the Ceremony can be held.
Those contracts vary from City to city and from couple to couple. So the contract could state whatever you think it is important f.e. the Companionship Price, any clauses necessary to govern the relationship, events that would legally govern a dissolution of contract, and what property belongs to whom in case of a dissolution of the Free Companionship. The document may spell out in detail what happens to any property belonging to either party should either be enslaved or killed. One note: a Free Woman can not enslave her Free Companion, she however can be enslaved by her Companion resulting from either her actions or by her own submission.

A Gorean free woman does not change her name in the ceremony of the Free Companionship. She remains who she was. In such a ceremony two free individuals have elected to become companions. The Earth woman, as a consequence of certain mating ceremonials, may change her last name. The first and other names, however, tend to remain constant. From the Gorean point of view the wife of Earth occupies a status which is higher than that of the slave but lower than that of the Free Companion.“ Explorers of Gor, p. 365[/list]

The termination of the Free Companionship

The Free Companionship is a contract between two Free Persons, which will last for one year. After that period of time it must be renewed with the wines of love or it will dissolve. The renewal has to be performed by the twenties Ahn, at midnight of the anniversary date.
Btw this isn’t a matter concerning the second life partnership, which last one year too - it is stated in the books that way. It is unknown if there is a possibility of a sort of divorce before the end of the year but as it is a contractual matter it seems not impossible.
So if you feel the Companionship should be dissolved earlier then after one year talk to your Administrator or Magistrate and he may made a decision as to whether the termination will be granted. There will be a price to be paid for such a termination.

    The next to appear before Bila Huruma were two members of the nobility, a man and his companion. He complained of her that she had been unwilling to please him. By one word and a stroke of his hand between them Bila Huruma dissolved their companionship. He then ordered that the man be put in the dress of a woman and beaten from the court with sticks. This was done. He then ordered that the woman be stripped and a vine leash be put on her neck. She was then sentenced to a barrack of Askaris for a year, that she might learn how to please men." Explorers of Gor, page 231

The Ceremony
Well it was my first intention to write only about the ceremony but this Free Companionshipthing*smiles benignly… seems rather more complex somehow.
Anyway it is at is sometimes with Normans books, they don’t contain a complete ceremony just some small information’s every now and then. But it is clear that the ceremonies vary from city to city and that the couple has an influence how it will be held, as a huge feast or more in privacy. The only common denominator is that the ceremony include the drinking of special wine, the wine of love. In some ceremonies, the couple will interlock their arms as they drink the wine. The wine must often be drunk to conclude the ceremony. In some ceremonies, the woman will wear eight veils, several which will be removed during certain phases of the ceremony. Some cities then have the final veils removed in private by the man while in other cities the final veils are removed in public during the ceremony. http://www.gor-now.net/delphius2002/id26.htm

    In certain cities, in connection with the free companionship, the betrothed or pledged beauty may wear eight veils, several of which are ritualistically removed during various phases of the ceremony of companionship; the final veils, and robes, of course, are removed in private by the male who, following their removal, arms interlocked with the girl, drinks with her the wine of the companionship, after which he completes the ceremony.
    This sort, of thing, however, varies considerably from city to city. In some cities the girl is unveiled, though not disrobed, of course, during the public ceremony.
    The friends of the male may then express their pleasure and joy in her beauty, and their celebration of the good fortunes of their friend. The veil, it might be noted, is not legally imperative for a free woman; it is rather a matter of modesty and custom.Slave Girl of Gor , p. 106

Hm…it isn’t that easy to find a quote, which mentions what those different 8 veils express ..maybe this one explains it a lil

    Eta, from behind me, pinned the first of five veils about my face. It was light, and shimmering, of white silk, almost transparent. Then, one after the other, she added the freedom veil, or veil of the citizeness, the pride veil, the house veil, and street veil. Each of these is heavier and more opaque than the one which lies within. The street veil, worn publicly, is extremely bulky, quite heavy and completely opaque; not even the lineaments of the nose and cheeks are discernible when it is worn; the house veil is worn indoors when there are those present who are not of the household, as in conversing with or entertaining associates of one's companion. Veils are worn in various numbers and combinations by Gorean free women, this tending to vary by preference and caste. Many low-class Gorean women own only a single veil which must do for all purposes. Not all high-caste women wear a large number of veils. A free woman, publicly, will commonly wear one or two veils; a frequent combination is the light veil, or last veil, and the house or street veil. Rich, vain women of high caste may wear ostentatiously as many as nine or ten veils. In certain cities, in connection with the free companionship, the betrothed or pledged beauty may wear eight veils, several of which are ritualistically removed during various phases of the ceremony of companionship; the final veils, and robes, of course, are removed in private by the male who, following their removal, arms interlocked with the girl, drinks with her the wine of the companionship, after which he completes the ceremony. Slave Girl of Gor, p. 107-108

As you can see it isn't described in details. The Ceremonies I know were held in that way:
-the Admin/Ubar surrounded by others of the High Council held a short speech to the crowd, welcomed all citizens and said something like:"We as the officials of ... are very proud to lead this ceremony! And we wish to point out to let you all know, we do wish Honor, Unity and all the Luck they need for their partnership! May the Priest Kings follow them with a smooth eye on them to fulfill their Wishes!"
He asked them afterwards if they have the contract.
- each party spoke a vow towards the other
- the contract is signed.
- the FW gets unveiled as I mentioned above
- they drink the wine of love
- the Administrator/Ubar closes the ceremony the feast begins

A Free Companions Life

And well there are some Goreans who have a different feeling towards Free Companionship, as it is stated here:
    "Some Goreans think of the Free Companionship as being a form of contract slavery." Blood Brothers of Gor, p.246

In seeking for a Free Companion you should be aware about those issues:

Goreans believe that every women internalizes both being a slave and a Free.
    The Goreans claim that in each woman there is a free companion, proud and beautiful, worthy and noble, and in each, too, a slave girl. The companion seeks for her companion; the slave girl for her master. Hunters of Gor, p. 102
but (!)
    “In a Mans Own Hut, said he, he must be Master; even though he has selected out for himself a companion. It is the part of his companion to befriend and aid him, not to insult and drive him."
    Slave girl of Gor, p. 241

In a Free Companionship a gorean man is indeed Master of his own house. The Free Companionship to a gorean man still requires a woman who is submissive, or at the very least subordinate to her man. She does not dress or act outlandishly in a way that would bring him ridicule, she does not gain say her man, she may indeed offer advice and at times even criticize, so long as it is constructive criticism. She is "the wind beneath His wings".
Like her counterpart on Gor, she is mindful of her place, secure in his love and needs no reminding that she represents him. She welcomes guests into his home and ensures their comfort. She takes an active role in the financial situation of the household even to the extent of maintaining her own career and therefore contributing to it. She raises his children to be strong and honest. She is his lover. http://www.pantheus.com/T-O/thoughts.shtml

While the Free Woman in Companionship is highly regarded and treated with the respect of her station she is still subject to the nature of her Free Companion.
The Southern Region Free Woman often times runs the house and even businesses of her own and her Free Companion. She owns slaves both female and male and enjoys a life of privilege and rank according to the caste and/or social status of both, herself and her Free Companion.
In the Northern Regions of Gor such as Torvaldsland, the Jarls Woman as a Free Companion is known, sees to the running of the Lodge while the Jarls are at sea. She sees to the fields, the harvests, oversees workings of both, bond-maids and thralls.
It is ALWAYS to be remembered no matter in what Region of Gor a Free Woman resides the Man on Gor is dominant, the woman submissive. Whether she is a treasured partner to join beside him in companionship, bear his children and act as his helper and confident, if she steps from the role of Free Woman, he will quickly subject her to the world of a slave.
A Free Man will own slaves and his Free Companion must accept this fact. She is to remember her role at all times, if this means turning a blind eye to the pleasures her Companion enjoys with slaves so be it. A Gorean Male will not tolerate jealous behavior and harping by a woman whether she is Free or his Companion.
A Free Companion who is not found to be pleasing may find herself chained to the foot of her Companions sleeping couch nude with no blanket, furs or mat. The only difference separating her from His slaves is she will not wake up in slavery unless her continued behavior places her there. It does not usually take but one night spent on the floor in chains for the Free Woman to change her ways.
For it is known, only the Free Companion is allowed to share the couch of a Free Man, it is not a place for the slave. http://furmesnest.tripod.com/id24.html
The following quote is well worth reading and remembering.

    ”If she has not pleased her master of late, she may be, of course, as a disciplinary measure, simply chained nude to the slave ring at in the bottom of the couch, sans both blanket and mat. The stones of the floor are hard and the Gorean nights are cold and it is a rare girl who, when unchained in the morning, does not seek more dutifully to serve her master.
    This harsh treatment, incidentally, when she is thought to deserve it, may even be inflicted on a Free Companion, in spite of the fact that she is free and usually much loved. According to the Gorean way of looking at things a taste of the slave ring is thought to be occasionally beneficial to all women, even the exalted Free Companions.
    Thus when she has been irritable or otherwise troublesome even a Free Companion may find herself at the foot of the couch looking forward to a pleasant night on the stones, stripped, with neither mat nor blanket, chained to the slave ring precisely as though she were a lowly slave girl.
    It is the Gorean way of reminding her, should she need to be reminded, that she, too, is a woman, and thus to be dominated, to be subject to men. Should she be tempted to forget this basic fact of Gorean life the slave ring set in the bottom of each Gorean couch is there to refresh her memory. Gor is a mans world.
    And yet on this world I have seen great numbers of women who were both beautiful and splendid.
    The Gorean woman, for reasons that are not altogether clear to me, considering the culture, rejoices in being a woman. She is often an exciting, magnificent, glorious creature, outspoken, talkative, vital, active, spirited. On the whole I find her more joyful than many of her earth-inhabiting sisters who, theoretically at least, enjoy a more lofty status, although it is surely true that on my old world I have met several women with something of the Gorean zest for acknowledging the radiant truth of their sex, the gifts of joy, grace and beauty, tenderness, and fathoms of love that we poor men, I suspect, may sometimes and tragically fail to understand, to comprehend.
    Yet with all due respect and regard for the most astounding and marvelous sex, I suspect that, perhaps partly because of my Gorean training, it is true that a touch of the slave ring is occasionally beneficial.
    Of custom, a slave girl may not even ascend the couch to serve her masters pleasure. The point of this restriction, I suppose, is to draw a clearer distinction between her status and that of a Free Companion. At any rate the dignities of the couch are, by custom, reserved for the Free Companion.” Priest Kings of Gor, p. 67 – 68

Friday, May 9, 2014

Contract of Free Companionship

"There is no marriage as we know it on Gor, but there is the institution of free companionship, which is its nearest correspondent. More commendably, a free woman may herself, of her own free will, agree to be such a companion. Such relationships are not entered into lightly, and they are normally sundered only by death." ---Outlaw of Gor, p 54

The setting down of this legal document in written form by Scribe's Signature Here of the Caste of Scribes, on this, the (Enter Gorean Date here) serves as the Contract of Companionship between two Gorean Free Persons:

Free Man's Name, Home Stone, Rank, Caste, & House
Free Woman's Name, Home Stone, Rank, Caste, & House

This contract may only be severed in the following cases: Death, Slavery, Non-Renewal, or by the breaking of terms set down in the legal contract below. Any breaking of the written terms will result in the immediate dissolution of the Contract, and all written penalties shall immediately apply. Legal representation of the Caste of Scribes shall oversee and enforce the application of all terms if such event occurs. If the Free Man named in this contract is a Warrior, the enforcing of terms will be exercised by the Caste of Scribes in conjunction with the Caste of Warriors of the Free Man's Home Stone. Guilt incurred by either party of this Contract shall in all due fairness be investigated, testimony gathered and evidence studied, by the Caste of Scribes and the ruling Warrior presence of the Free Man's Home Stone in order to reach the fair and just ruling under Gorean Law.

I, (Scribe's Signature Here), of the Caste of Scribes do hereby attest that both parties are resolute in entering into this Free Companionship of their own free will.

I. Companionship Price. (The Scribe will verify one of the two cases indicated below)

The companionship price ('bride price') for the Lady (enter FW's SN here) in the amount of (list coin and/or properties demanded) has been paid by (enter Free Man's SN here ), to her Father/Legal Guardian (state that man's name, Home Stone, and rank here).
~OR~
The Lady (place the FW's name here) has no living relatives to whom a companionship price would be paid; or her previous companionship(s) cancels/cancel the required companionship price. This is agreeable to the Free Man entering the Companionship (Free Man's signature here).

II. Dowry. (Scribe will Verify one of the two conditions below)

The Free Man entering this companionship contract has received a Dowry for the Lady in the amount of (state coin and/or properties given to the man as a dowry). This dowry is non-refundable to the lady's family, should the companionship contract be dissolved. (Free Man's signature here, to verify receipt of Dowry).
~OR~
Due to the Lady's past status (enter one of the Following: ' Previous Companionship(s)' OR the 'FW is a Former Slave'), there is no dowry for the Lady (enter FW's name here), and this has been deemed acceptable to the Man entering the companionship (enter Free Man's name here).

III. Personal Assets and Holdings of the Free Man and Free Woman.

I, (Free Man's signature here), of the Caste of _________, do hereby attest that these are my sole assets, possessions and holdings as of the date of the signing of this Contract:

(List all coin, properties, assets, including ships, lands, houses, businesses, slaves and other animals.)

These assets and holdings shall remain the sole, legal property of (Free Man's name here), yet may be shared freely at his own discretion, with the Lady (FW's name here) during the length of their Companionship. (Signature of both the FM and FW here)

Should the companionship contract be dissolved for any reason except Death of the Free Man, these holdings remain the sole property of (enter Free Man's name here) (Both FM and FW intials here).

Should the companionship contract be severed by the Death of (enter Free Man's name here), the Free Man's last Will and Testament will be enacted by the Executor of his Will in distributing his sole assets and holdings. If there is no Will at the time of Death, all of the Free Man's assets and Holdings are transferred to his children; if no children, then to the lady named in this contract (enter FW's name here), if Death occurs during the length of the Companionship.

I, Lady (FW's signature here) of the Caste of __________, do hereby attest that these are my sole assets, possessions and holdings as of the date of the signing of this Contract:

(List all coin, properties, assets, including ships, lands, houses, businesses, slaves and other animals.)

These assets and holdings shall remain the sole property of Lady (FW's name listed here), yet will be shared freely with her Free Companion, (list Free Man's name here) during the length of their Companionship.

Should the companionship contract be dissolved for any reason except Death, Slavery, or Breaking Contract Terms by the Lady named in this contract, these holdings will remain the sole property of FW's name listed here.

Should the Lady (list the FW's name here) be legally enslaved under Gorean Law by a Man not her Free Companion during the length of this Companionship, Gorean Law will apply to all assets, coin and holdings she owns defaulting to the ownership of the Free Man who enslaves her. This property ownership cannot be overturned by her male Free Companion except by a combat challenge to the Man who has enslaved her; and if the Free Woman was legally enslaved, that enslavement ruling cannot be overturned in any Court. Legal enslavement of the Lady can be appealed by the Lady's male family members, or by her Free Companion, in a Gorean Court of Law, normally the Court of the Ubar or Administrator in the city where enslavement occurred.

Should the Lady (list the FW's name here) be legally enslaved by her Free Companion (list Free Man's name here) during their Companionship, Gorean Law will apply to all assets, coin and holdings, sole and shared, defaulting to her Free Companion, (list Free Man's name). Enslavement and property default therefore cannot be overturned in any court of law.

Should the companionship contract be dissolved by the Death of (enter FW's name here) during the length of their companionship, all listed holdings shall become the sole property of (enter Free Man's name here) and any children born of their companionship and previous companionships of the Lady, thus no children will be excluded in the properties and holdings of their deceased Mother.

IV. Properties, Assets, and Holdings Aquired During the Companionship Contract.

I, (Free Man's signature) do hereby attest that any profits, properties, coin, assets and holdings I acquire during the length of this Companionship Contract (shall/shall not: state what the Man's wishes are) be shared with my Free Companion, (enter FW's name here).

I, (Free Woman's signature) do hereby attest that any profits, properties, coin, assets and holdings I acquire during the length of this companionship term shall be shared freely with my Free Companion, (enter Free Man's name here).

The Scribe preparing this contract has advised both parties that should the contract be Dissolved for any reason other than Death, Slavery, or Breaking of terms, the Shared and Acquired assets and properties gained during the Companionship Term shall be appropriated as follows: Any assets and holdings the Free Man has acquired during the Companionship through his own endeavors will then become His sole property. Any assets, coin, and holdings the Free Woman has acquired during the Companionship through her own endeavors will then become her sole property. Any jointly owned property that can be verified with a Deed as belonging to both the Free Woman and Free Man must be divided equally, or an agreement reached by both parties as to how it will continue to be shared; or its liquidation into coin to be equally distributed between both parties. Any disputes concerning jointly owned property and its proper distribution will be settled by the Highest-Ranking Scribe of the Free Man's Home Stone.

V. Child Custody

Legal custody of any children born of the companionship between (list Free Man's name AND FW's name) shall be appropriated under Gorean Law which specifies that a Free Man has rights to his own Heirs (Scribe will indicate one of the two custody arrangements below according to the wishes of the Free Man.):

IA: Should this Companionship Contract be dissolved or is not renewed and the Lady has not been enslaved or broken terms, Lady (Free Woman's name here) shall retain custody of (list which children will remain with the mother), born of the companionship, until the children have reached an age suitable for Caste Training, which is determined by the Caste of the Free Man; at which time custody shall be immediately delivered to the Father, (Free Man's name here), in order to be trained in the Caste of the Father. During the earliest years, (Free Man's name here) shall have full visitation rights of the children; after the children are delivered into his custody, Lady (FW's name here) may have visitation rights of the children which are subject to the discretion of the Father. The following children, (list children's names here, if any) born of this companionship shall remain with (FW's name here) until such time that they are companioned, with full rights of visitation given to (Free Man's name here); should this companionship be dissolved for reasons other than Death or Enslavement of the Lady, or her breaking of terms, (Free Man's name here) retains his rights as Father of the children in the choosing and approving of Suitors and Companions for his female children. The Free Woman named in this companionship understands that should her behavior not reflect that of a proper Free Woman and/or good example to her children or she is enslaved, the Father of the children (Free Man's Name here) may then seize custody of their children.
~OR~
IB: Should this Companionship Contract be dissolved or is not renewed for any reason, I, (Free Man's Signature Here) as Father of my Heirs hereby retain full custody of the following children born of this Companionship upon the contract's dissolvement: (State child's/childrens' name/names, and Genders here. Some Men will only want full custody of the boys not the girls.) The Lady (Free Woman's Name here's) privileges of visitation and/or to Instruct the children may or may not be given, and are subject to my discretion alone. I still retain my rights to visitation and the choosing of Suitors and Companions for any female children I allow the Mother full custody of.

VI. Terms and Penalties.

Both parties attest and agree that in the case of sexual relations of the Lady, (Free Woman's Name here) with any Free Person not her Free Companion named in this contract will result in this contract becoming Dissolved and the total loss of all sole and shared assets she possessed before and during the period of companionship. It is further understood by the Lady named in this contract that she can, under Gorean Law, be enslaved for engaging in Sexual Relations with another man not her Free Companion, further resulting in stripping of Caste, Citizenship and loss of any and all rights to her Children.

In the case of enslavement of the Lady (Free Woman's Name here), consequences will follow Gorean Laws for Enslavement; and any children born of this companionship Term shall be delivered immediately into the sole custody of the father, (FM's Name Here). Couching Law will also be enforced if such a case occurs.

(Clause of the Ubar or Administrator goes here if needed.)

In the case of a mutually agreed Dissolution of this contract before its expiration date, all properties and assets acquired during the length of the companionship shall be divided between both parties as specified above in the Clause above addressing property distribution and appropriation. A dissolution agreement must be filed with the proper authorities and signed by a minimum of two (2) witnesses.

With the affixing of my personal signature below, I attest that I enter into this Contract of Companionship of my own free will, and with full agreement to all terms, stipulations and penalties set forth.

(Free Man's Name, Home Stone, Rank, Date of Signing)

With the affixing of my personal signature below, I attest that I enter into this Contract of Companionship of my own free will, and with full agreement to all terms, stipulations and penalties set forth.

(Free Woman's Name, Home Stone, Rank, Date of Signing)

Witnessed, Signed and Sealed:

(Scribe's Signature and Rank, Gorean Date and official seal affixed here)

To be Filled out by the Man Performing the Joining Ceremony: Place of Ceremony, performed in the presence of at least two witnesses: (State Home Stone and House or place in the city where it was performed) Date of Ceremony: (List Gorean Date and Earthen Date here) Ceremony performed by: (Signature, Rank, and Home Stone here) (Official's Seal Here)

This contract must be renewed by the 20th ahn, Gorean midnight of its Anniversary date [ List the Earthern Mun Date for the couple to remember it ] or it shall become Dissolved under Gorean Law.

"At that point, in Gorean law, the companionship had been dissolved. The companionship had not been renewed by the twentieth hour, the Gorean Midnight, of its anniversary" -Marauders of Gor

CLAUSE of the Ubar or Administrator

Scribe Note: This portion is to be filled out to specifically Define the Rights, Privileges and City Powers of the Ubar or Administrator's Free Companion in times of War and Peace. This is a highly vital portion of the Joining Contract for a Ruler of a City.

I, (Free Man's Signature, Rank and Home Stone here) Do hereby attest that my Free Companion named in this contract, (Free Woman's Name here), shall have the following privileges, rights and powers that are due her status as my Free Companion in times of Peace:

(List any and all additional privileges, rights and City Powers not named above here)

Additionally, I, (Free Man's Signature, Rank and Home Stone) do hereby attest that During times of War, my Free Companion (FW's name here) Shall/Shall not (The Man must choose one) be granted the title of "Ubara." If granted the title of "Ubara", she must abide by my authority at all times. She may not act upon military matters without my expressed permission; she will not serve as Regent or lead my Armies without both my written permission and the granting of my Signet Ring into her personal keeping unless I personally command otherwise. Unless otherwise stated, if I fall in battle, I name (Man's Name to be listed here) to serve as temporary Ubar until such time of Peace that an Administrator is Elected by the High Council. (Scribes Note: This paragraph can be altered according to the Free Man's wishes.)

Should my Free Companion, (Lady's Name here) act, or attempt to act against the above Decrees it will be charged as an act of Treason against her ruler and her Home Stone and therefore be subject to trial and sentencing for Treason by the Caste of Warriors. Should my Free Companion at any time attempt or plot to coup, to overthrow my rulership or attempt become a military Ubara, she will be executed for Treason.

Should this companionship contract be Dissolved, Lady (FW's SN here) can no longer claim the authorities, privileges and powers granted to her by me as my Free Companion. Additionally, any children born of this companionship will not be taken out of my City without my expressed permission.

(Free Man's Signature Here) (Free Woman's Signature Here)

I, (Scribe's Signature here) , as Witness to the wishes of the Ubar/Administrator of ________, attest that the Lady entering this Free Companionship, (Lady's Name here) has been made fully aware of the stipulations and decrees written above.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Parent's FC Renewal

I had the honor of officiating at my parent's free companionship renewal.

Friday, January 31, 2014

Free Women

Clothing


City WomenRobes of Concealment
The norm for the Free Women of the cities of Gor is for them to wear robes of concealment and veils. Women of high caste are much more likely to wear robes of concealment and veils though many low caste women do as well. The general idea of this garb is to conceal a woman from head to toe, allowing only her eyes to be revealed, perhaps not even that. This garb is reminiscent of the clothing worn by Muslim women on Earth, though the Gorean garb may be even more intricate and bulky. Basically, the higher your caste or station, the more complex your clothing will be. A low caste woman may only own a single or a couple robes, while a high caste woman might own dozens of different ones. The robes are worn in layers, each outer layer being stiffer and bulkier than the one below it. Only a couple of robes were specifically named in the books though undoubtedly other robes are named as well. The street robe is a very stiff robe and it goes over the house robe, which is more flexible. The robes are kept secure by a series of eyes and hooks and it can take some time for a high caste woman to dress in her multiple layers. She will need help dressing properly. Gloves are also commonly worn. The robes may be of any colors though one's caste colors will often be the predominant color. Beneath these robes, a woman may wear a slip-like undergarment, its fabric dependent upon the wealth of the woman. High caste women are more likely to own an undergarment of silk or a similar material. A low caste woman is more likely to wear an undergarment of rep cloth. Bras, panties and hosiery are not worn on Gor.
 
Veils
Like robes, veils are worn in various numbers and combinations dependent upon one's Caste and station. Many low caste women possess only a single veil which must suffice for all occasions. High caste women often own many veils and will wear a number commensurate with the occasion. Some wealthy women may wear up to ten veils on a formal occasion. In general, most women will wear only one or two veils, such as the last veil and the street veil. Each veil is heavier and more opaque than the veil beneath it. A veil is commonly a long length of fabric that is wound around a woman's head and secured by veil pins. A narrow gap is left for one's eyes. There are a number of veils named in the books and others may exist as well. The last veil, also known as the light veil, is often worn next to one's face. It is similar in some ways to the intimacy veil. The intimacy veil is also worn next to the face but it is diaphanous. This veil is long though and can be wound several times around one's face, thus making it more opaque with each revolution. T he freedom veil, also known as the citizeness veil, is worn above the last veil. The pride veil is then worn above the freedom veil. The house veil is worn over the pride veil. The house veil is often worn indoors when the household is having guests, especially guests unfamiliar to the woman. The street veil is commonly the topmost veil worn in public. This veil is very heavy and absolutely opaque. There are also veils that signify one's position, such as the veil of state, an item worn by a tatrix or ubara. This will be an intricately embroidered item, fancy but still opaque.
 
Conventions
In many Gorean cities, such as Ar and Ar's Station, it is not legally mandatory for Free Women to wear robes of concealment and veils. It is more a matter of custom, tradition and modesty. But, there are some cities that make it mandatory and repeated violations can lead to enslavement. Part of the justification for this garb is to protect Free Women from being kidnapped by raiders. Most men will not risk their life to try to abduct a woman who might turn out to be ugly. It is much more profitable to steal a slave who they can easily see is attractive. Gorean men are aware that many Free Women do not take care of their figures. There are slavers, though, who specialize in the abduction of Free Women.
"There is a Gorean saying that Free Women, raised gently in the high cylinders, in their robes of concealment, unarmed, untrained in weapons, may, by the slaver, be plucked like flowers."
(Hunters of Gor, p. 118)
In the robes and veils, it is easy for a Free Woman to disguise her identity while she travels around the city. Another justification is that Free Women are supposed to be modest and not act like a slave in any way. Wearing clothes that are too revealing would be a social faux pas. Even in cities where such garb is not mandatory, there will still be laws that prevent Free Women from baring too much flesh in public. Violations of such laws can lead to enslavement. In addition, some high caste women do not want the low castes to see their faces. They feel they are above the low castes who are not worthy to look upon their faces. Normally only one's family may look upon a Free Woman without her veil. Within their homes, some women may not wear a veil in the presence of certain special guests. Free Women, when drinking in public, commonly lift their veils with their left hands to drink. Others will drink right through their veils. In public, some low caste women don't wear veils and a few bold high caste women may also not wear them. This is more likely to lead to negative ramifications for the high caste woman. Peer pressure helps to contribute to women wearing veils. If a high caste woman does not wear veils in public, she may find herself shunned by other women or even publicly insulted. Women of the barbaric lands often do not wear veils, and even women of some of the northern cities do not commonly wear veils. In the cities, it is often a serious crime for someone to face strip a Free Woman, to remove her veils against her will. It can be dangerous for other reasons as well.
"It is not wise to try to tear away the garments of a free woman with one's bare hands. They may contain poisoned needles."
(Beasts of Gor, p. 402)
Footwear
Footwear for Free Women is commonly either sandals or slippers, dependent on caste. Boots may also be worn, dependent on the situation. Some women wear platform shoes, especially those of high caste or station. For example, Talena once wore platform shoes that were about ten inches high so she could look down upon the citizens of Ar.
 
Cosmetics and Hairdressing
Most Free Women rarely wear cosmetics or perfume, believing they are only for slaves. In certain cities, such as Ar, many Free Women do commonly use them. There are even stores that cater specifically to Free Women. Those stores do not commonly stock products for slaves, only Free Women. It is interesting though that many perfumers, hairdressers and cosmeticians treat their Free Women clients almost like slaves. This does not stop the Free Women from patronizing their establishments. Free Women may wear upswept hairdos, something generally not permitted to slaves who must often wear their hair long. Some Free Women even may purchase wigs or falls though they only want items made from the hair of Free Women. Women's hair is a common trade item and is especially prized for catapult ropes. During times of war, some Free Women will give their hair to the city to use for catapults.
 
Other Clothing
Certain women may wear garb other than robes, dependent on the situation. For example, wealthy Free Women who own orchards, fields, ranches, vineyards or such may wear different clothes when they are supervising or inspecting their properties. One type of such outfit includes a full skirt, its hem about six inches off the ground, a blouse, a belted jacket that falls to the thighs, a hood attached to the jacket by hooks, leather boots, and an opaque veil. The height of the skirt hem is to protect it from dirt, water or mud. Interestingly enough, it also functions as a slave control device for kajiri. The sight of a Mistress' ankle, even booted, is very alluring to a kajirus. He will want to stare at it but understands he can be punished for doing so. This will make him a bit tense and wary around his Mistress and this can be used to control the kajirus. Women who go hunting may also wear different garb such as hunting leathers or a tunic, trousers, a cape and boots. In the North, a kirtle is commonly worn. This is a dress similar to a robe, except that it may be more tailored to the figure. It can be plain or ornamented, belted, sashed or no waist binding. Additional items include vests and cloaks. Because of the colder climate, boots are commonly worn, though slippers may be worn indoors.

Free Companionship

Free Companionship Elsewhere
On Gor, except for Port Kar, free companionship lasts for a single year at a time, then it either must be renewed with the wines of love or it will dissolve. The renewal must be performed by the twentieth ahn, midnight, of the anniversary date. If either party dies or is enslaved, the free companionship will also dissolve. It is unknown whether the parties can voluntarily choose to dissolve, like a divorce, the free companionship prior to the year's end. As it is a contractual matter, the possibility exists, but the books do not speak on this matter. Free companionship is a very serious matter to Goreans. It is not entered into lightly and seems unlikely that Goreans would see a need to end it earlier than the year's end. There are others who feel differently about free companionship.
"Some Goreans think of the Free Companionship as being a form of contract slavery."
(Blood Brothers of Gor, p. 246)
Free companionships may either be arranged or entered into voluntarily by both parties. If it is an arrangement, there is often a companionship price also known as a bride-price. This is the amount of money or goods that the prospective man must pay to the father of the woman he desires to be his free companion. The bride-prices of high caste women are often in gold or tarns. A beautiful woman might cost as much as forty tarns while the daughter of an administrator could go as high as one hundred tarns. The daughter of an ubar might even cost one thousand tarns. Low castes also arrange free companionships, though the bride-price would be much lower. The woman is often not consulted concerning the matter. She must accept what her father arranges for her. Some women might not even see the face of their intended until the free companionship ceremony. Many low caste women will know their intended companion, though they will pretend otherwise. It will often be someone of their caste, someone they might see in the market or on the city streets.
The woman might be "…the same girl who slapped him with a fish yesterday and hurled such a stream of invective at him that his ears still smart,…"
(Outlaw of Gor, p. 68)
The books do not contain a complete free companionship ceremony, only small bits of information about its contents. In addition, it is clear that the ceremonies vary city to city. The only common denominator is that the ceremony includes the drinking of special wine, the wine of love. In some ceremonies, the couple will interlock their arms as they drink the wine. The wine must often be drunk to conclude the ceremony. In some ceremonies, the woman will wear eight veils, several which will be removed during certain phases of the ceremony. Some cities then have the final veils removed in private by the man while in other cities the final veils are removed in public during the ceremony. A person is only permitted to have a single free companion at a time. There is no limit to the number of subsequent free companions you may have. Free Women do not change their names in a free companionship like Earth women do in a marriage. A free companionship generally is supported by a companion contract outlining the conditions of the companionship. The books again do not contain the details of such contracts. There may be a feast celebration of the free companionship. At this event, it is common for the woman to wear a garland of talendars. If the prospective free companions are of different cities, the ceremony may be preceded by a companion or betrothal journey, where the woman journeys to the man's city. The wealthier the couple, the more involved this journey will be. Tarnsmen have a custom where the warrior playfully captures his intended woman and binds her across the saddle of his tarn. He then flies away with her, tossing her clothes to the ground below. Some men will even free a slave to make her his free companion. A female free companion, especially one of high caste, will often perform only the type of work they choose to do. They do not commonly work as a domestic servant in their home. There are public slaves who tend to chores such as cooking, cleaning and laundry. Such work is considered beneath most Free Women, especially those of high caste or station. This does give Free Women a lot of free time, especially if they do not work in their caste and do not have children.
 
ChildrenA vital function of the Free Women of Gor is to reproduce, to provide children to give longevity to their family and caste. The child of a slave is most often legally considered a slave. Few free men will thus have children with their slaves. That is considered a privilege of Free Women. In general, it is Free Women who care for and teach the children in their crucial beginning years of development. Slaves are not permitted to teach free people so they could not teach even children. Slaves are limited to lesser roles with children, more a playmate than much else. Children will thus learn a lot from their free mothers so it is the obligation of their mothers to ensure they learn the proper information. It is likely they are the ones that begin to teach children about the caste codes, their proper modes of behavior. Goreans are fond of children and rarely would cause them harm or suffering. Even slave children are seldom abused. Slave children may not even realize they are slaves until they are in their teenage years. Despite this general love of children, there is also a dichotomy involved as well. Some Free Women sell their infant children into slavery, mostly their daughters. Some women even do this on a regular basis. The standard price for an infant girl is about two tarsk bits, a very low value. Some infants, if they appear sickly or too weak, may be left out to die, exposed to the elements. Some children are left in the Voltai Mountains, a wooden skewer through their heels. Goreans do not consider this to be cruelty. Female children learn many ways to please men, including such matters as the preparation of exotic dishes, the arts of walking, standing and being beautiful, the care of a man's equipment, and certain dances. These dances may include the love dances of their city and the stately dances of free maidens. These stately ones might be performed to honor and welcome visiting dignitaries. It is a slow and graceful dance, very modest. Female children must also learn how to submit to a man as they never know when that might save their life one day. The threat of enslavement is a very real danger for all women. Thus, they want to be prepared as most women would prefer slavery to death.
 
FrigidityIn general Free Women are seen as frigid and sexually repressed. Many know little about sex and see it more as a duty and a chore rather than as a matter of mutual pleasure. This frigidity is considered acceptable for free women though slaves are not permitted that quality. Men are commonly disappointed by this frigidity, especially if they have experienced the wanton sexuality of a slave. It generally takes from a third to a quarter of an ahn, 18 to 24 minutes, to arouse a Free Woman to orgasm. Some Free Women are proud of their frigidity. They consider it important to show how different they are from slaves. Other Free Women seek to change that aspect and learn how to be more sexually responsive. Physicians commonly tell Free Women who seek advice on changing their frigidity to learn slave dancing. Most consider it appropriate, though, that Free Women remain ignorant of the sexuality of the slave.
"An unowned girl, a free woman, thus, can never experience her full sexuality…Passion, it is thought, deprives the free woman to some extent of her freedom and important self-control; it is frowned upon because it makes her behave, to some extent, like a degraded female slave; Free Women, thus, to protect their honor and dignity, their freedom and personhood, their individuality, must fight passion;… the free woman must remain cool and in control of herself, even in the arms of her companion, to avoid being truly 'had,'…"
(Tribesman of Gor, p. 17)


Free Women Laws

Within the books, there are basically two types of laws that deal with Free Women. There are laws that protect Free Women and there are laws that state when a Free Woman may be legally enslaved. In addition, there are certain universal conventions that exist dealing with the enslavement of Free Women. Though these do not have the power of law, honor often dictates that the conventions will be followed if appropriate. An important point to consider is that it is generally illegal to collar a Free Woman, within the city of her Home Stone, on your own. Even if a Free Woman violates one of the city laws where the punishment is slavery, the legal process must still be followed. Either magistrates or a court will decide if the woman's actions warrant her judicial enslavement. Men will act to protect women of their Home Stone from being illegally enslaved. Also remember that the following list of laws may not apply in all Gorean cities. This is simply a list derived from the books. Each city will have their own laws and may or may not follow one of the laws listed here. Other laws, that are not listed here, will also exist.

Laws
It is illegal to touch pleasure silk to the skin of a Free Woman. It is considered too sensuous a material for them. Face stripping, removing the veils of a Free Woman against her will, is considered a serious crime. A Free Woman may engage in a form of limited self-contracting where she legally becomes a slave for a specific time period, commonly ranging from one night to one year. She cannot end this contract earlier than the specified time period. Once the contract takes effect, she becomes a slave with no legal powers at all. This curious contractual arrangement is not described in great detail. It raises numerous legal dilemmas that can only be speculated about. The books do not state that the contract does or does not cover any contingencies or limits the slavery in any way. The woman does becomes an actual slave. That would seem to mean she could be freely killed. What would happen if she was sold? Does the contract prevent that? Would the time period still apply if she was sold? What would happen if she was stolen? This passage seems to raise far more questions than it answers.

The Couching Law states:
"Any free woman who couches with another's slave, or readies herself to couch with another's slave, becomes herself a slave, and the slave of the slave's master."
(Magicians of Gor, p. 7)
This basically means that a Free Woman cannot have sex with a male slave she does not own. It does not prevent her from having sex with a slave she does own. It also means that she only has to prepare to have sex with someone else's slave to be in violation. Actual sex is not a requirement. Special seduction slaves are used by some owners to trap Free Women. Milo, from Magicians of Gor, is a prime example of a seduction slave. Tarl Cabot uses him to entrap Talena and enslave her by this law. The Couching Law exists in Ar and may have been adopted by other cities. There are other cities, like Vonda, that clearly do not have such a law because Free Women there may freely give their male slaves to a female guest. Debt can lead to a Free Woman's enslavement in either of two ways. First, if a father cannot pay his own debts, then his daughter may become the property of the state. She would then be publicly auctioned and her sale price would be used equitably to pay off her father's debts. The books do not state that sons are also susceptible to this law though it would seem unlikely that would be the case. Second, a Free Woman who cannot pay her own debts may be enslaved. There are redemption laws whereby another person can pay off the woman's debt and thus gain ownership of that woman. If no one chooses to pay off her debts within a specified time period then she will be sold to a slaver, the proceeds used to pay off her debt. The books do not specify the exact length of time before she would be sold to a slaver. This law is sometimes used by unscrupulous people to entrap Free Women. They may purchase a woman's debt from another and then request that the woman make good on the debt immediately. If the woman cannot do so, she will be enslaved. A Free Woman can sell herself into slavery but once the transaction is completed, it is too late for her to revoke it. If a Free Woman willingly submits to be a slave to a specific man, the city laws vary on what can happen. Some cities state that the woman becomes a slave automatically even if that particular man does not accept her submission. It seems probable she would thus become a state slave at that point. Other cities state that the woman remains free if that particular man does not accept her submission. If a Free Woman kneels before a man or addresses him as Master, this is sufficient to make her a slave. Her actions are interpreted as a gesture of submission. There is no law in the books that states a Free Woman may be legally enslaved for being insolent, insulting, ridiculing or demeaning a man. Some city laws require women to wear robes of concealment and veils. Repeated offenses of failure to wear them can lead to enslavement. Even in cities where the robes and veils are not mandatory, a Free Woman can still be enslaved for baring too much skin, especially her legs. There is an important legal principle concerning Free Women and "conduct indicating suitability for the collar." It deals with overt conduct that shows a predisposition to slavery, behavior that is considered sufficient grounds to legally enslave a woman. It will be judges or magistrates who make the decision on whether a particular woman's behavior warrants such a penalty. There would sometimes be a hearing with a presentation of evidence. Some of the behaviors known to warrant such a sanction include fraud, theft, indigency, vagrancy, prostitution, and performing sensuous dance. In addition, Free Women who show an inordinate amount of interest in slavery may also be found suitable for this sanction. If a woman tries to spy on men and their slaves, if they disguise themselves as a slave, or linger around slave markets, then they might find themselves being judicially enslaved. These cases will not always be clear cut and could entail a lengthy hearing.

Conventions
Here are two important conventions dealing with enslavement and Free Women. They do not have the effect of law but honor often dictates these conventions will be followed. These conventions are part of the Gorean tradition and thus are accorded much respect. The institution of capture is practiced by nearly every, if not every, city on Gor. If you capture women from another city, your own city will recognize the legality of that capture and your rightful possession of the new slave. Remember that those women must belong to another city. You cannot legally raid your own city to obtain women to be your slaves. The city you are raiding will defend its women but they also understand that captures are a part of life. If a man saves the life of a woman, convention states that he has the option to enslave her. In essence, the man has won the right to the woman's life by saving it. Though this is not a law, few people would refuse a man this right. Even a woman's own family would be likely to honor this convention. It would be considered to be the honorable course of action.

Restrictions
Free Women have a number of freedoms and restrictions within different cities, not all that reach the level of an actual law. They are much more based on tradition and Goreans are very supportive of tradition. The general freedom of a Free Woman is closely tied to each particular city. Ko-ro-ba may be the Gorean city that accords the most personal freedom to Free Women and Tharna, after its revolution, may be the most repressive. For example, in Tharna, Free Women who visit must temporarily wear a collar, slave tunic and leash. The other cities of Gor fall somewhere in between this spectrum. In some cities, Free Women are not permitted to leave their homes without the permission of a male relative or their free companion. In addition, some cities permit their women only to speak to blood relatives. Women commonly travel outside the cities only accompanied by a sufficient group of armed guards. They do not commonly travel with only a single guard. It can be very dangerous for women outside the cities. Even within the cities, some women will travel with guards though they are more apt to only travel with a single guard. This would apply more for women of high caste or high station who can afford such protection. The average peasant woman would not walk around Ar protected by an armed rarius. There are no known laws limiting the type of weapons that women may carry but practicality commonly limits their choices to daggers and/or poisoned needles. Poison is considered to be a woman's weapon, not a weapon of warriors or assassins. Women will carry their weapons concealed, hoping to rely on surprise if they ever need to actually defend themselves. Without the element of surprise, most men could easily disarm a woman. Some Free Women engage in the sport of hunting and are skilled in the use of the crossbow or small bow. They may even dress in hunting leathers, ride a tharlarion and hunt on their own, though that is dangerous. When sitting, Free Women kneel in what would be considered almost a tower slave position. Their hands though lie on their thighs, palms down. Free Women maintain good posture while kneeling. Free Women do not sit cross-legged as that is only for men. It is considered an insult to men for women to sit cross-legged. Free Women may enter a house first, rather than behind a man like a slave. Free Women commonly drink delicately and eat in small bites. A Free Woman might eat larger bites, though that is most often done to arouse a man she desires. Free Women are rarely permitted to observe slave dances that are erotic or especially sensuous. This is not because they might be offended but it is for their own protection. It is thought that such sights might inflame the slave desires within a Free Woman. Most Free Women dislike the theater, especially its more vulgar and ribald minor forms. If anything, they will attend performances incognito so others can not identify them. It is only the more serious and major forms of theater that Free Women feel comfortable attending. The Twelfth Passage Hand, just before the solemn Waiting Hand, is often a time of great festivities, a carnival. Carnival is also a time for people to don masks and bizarre costumes, allowing an opportunity for jokes and pranks. They also permit incognito assignations between free people. Some Free Women even go as far as to masquerade as slaves and run naked through the cities. Another common game during the Carnival is called Favors. In the basic version, Free Women are given ten scarves, each set unique to each woman. The Free Women then pass out the scarves to men and receive a kiss in return. The first woman who passes out all of her scarves and returns to the starting point wins. This gives Free Women a valid way to flirt during this specific time.

Rhetoric

The Gorean novels are filled with much rhetoric concerning beliefs about Free Women. Many of these sayings allege that all women are natural slaves. Most of these sayings are not mentioned in the presence of Free Women. They are what men say when they get together to discuss women.
"Every woman in her heart wants to wear the chains of a man."
(Priest-Kings of Gor, p. 204)
"The institution of freedom for women, I decided, as many Goreans believed, was a mistake."
(Nomads of Gor, p. 286)
"…the garments of a free woman are designed to conceal a woman's slavery,…"
(Rogue of Gor, p. 276)
"On Gor it is said that free women are slaves who have not yet been collared."
(Magicians of Gor, p. 22)
"A Gorean saying came to mind, that the free woman is a riddle, the answer to which is the collar."
(Magicians of Gor, p. 50)
Some of these sayings also allege that true love can only exist between a man and a kajira, not a Free Woman. The general idea is that, for women, the price of being free is that they must sacrifice love. Again, these are sayings generally not spoken of in the presence of Free Women.
"A woman , I had learned, must choose between freedom and love."
(Slave Girl of Gor, p. 412)
"A man can truly love only that woman who is truly his, who belongs to him. Otherwise he is only a party to a contract."
(Slave Girl of Gor, p. 444)
"…no free woman, because she is free, can truly compete for the attention and affection of a man as can a slave girl."
(Fighting Slave of Gor, p. 217)
"Bondage is a soil in which it is natural for love to blossom."
(Blood Brothers of Gor, p. 113)
Yet, despite all this rhetoric, Free Women remain in the overwhelming majority on Gor. If all women are natural slaves, then why have not the majority of women been enslaved? If true love is only found with a slave, does that mean the vast majority of male Goreans live without love? It seems obvious, based on the evidence within the books, that all of this rhetoric is mostly just talk. It is manly banter that has little basis in the realities of Gorean society. Though generalizations can be made about Free Women, there are surely many exceptions as well. Some Free Women are capable of intense passion and love. Many men must find contentment with their Free Companions as Gorean men in general are said to be happy people. Do not confuse the rhetoric with the reality. Look deeper than the surface to find the true answers of Gor.


Slave Ownership

Free Women may own slaves, both male and female. There are no legal restrictions on their ownership rights concerning slaves. Silk slaves are special male slaves trained to please women. In the presence of Free Women, slaves are commonly required to be more modest. This applies mostly in public places, though it may apply elsewhere as well depending on the circumstances. On city streets though, kajirae are rarely punished for a lack of modesty. Free Women must tolerate almost any type of slave behavior that occurs there. A Free Man can walk his kajira naked through the streets if he so desires and the Free Women would just avert their eyes. Men are often solicitous of Free Women so they would rarely walk their slaves naked except maybe as a form of discipline. Men generally do not openly flaunt the sexuality of their slaves in front of Free Women. They often try to respect the sensitive feelings of the Free Women. In general, Free Women despise kajirae, treating them with cruelty and viciousness. If a slave is especially attractive, a Free Woman will treat her even worse. This is motivated in part by envy and jealousy. Free Women know that men often prefer the company of slave girls. This resentment is thus taken out on the slaves and not the men. Free Women also envy the slave's freedom to be sexual beings, especially of those slaves that seem the happiest. Some Free Women also despise slaves in a denial of their own feelings and desires to be a slave. The consequence is that most kajirae fear Free Women. They understand the power Free Women have over them and they do not want to irritate Free Women any further. They dread the possibility of being owned by a Free Woman. Since most men do not interfere when a Free Woman punishes a slave, a slave knows she has little recourse except to be as pleasing as possible to Free Women.


Society

The proper role of Free Women in Gorean society is one of the most misunderstood aspects of Gor. This misunderstanding is perpetuated by several factors. First, the rhetoric in much of the books states that all women should be slaves. Second, a cursory reading of the novels shows that basically all of the major Free Women characters, who are often haughty, end up as slaves. Third, there is a popular myth that male dominance is absolute on Gor. These three matters combine to skew one's view of Free Women on Gor. It is only through a deeper study of the novels do you better understand the actual complexity of the role of Free Women on Gor. They are far more than just potential slaves. The vast majority of the women on Gor are Free Women. Only 2 to 3% of all the women on Gor are actually slaves. That statistic alone speaks volumes about the place of Free Women in Gorean society. Despite all the rhetoric, Goreans do not follow through on those platitudes and enslave most of their women. They do not even enslave a significant portion of their women. There must be some compelling reasons to support this stance. Free Women must be able to fulfill important roles that slaves cannot. The need for those roles must supersede the need for slaves. Free Women are commonly treated with respect, courtesy and honor, especially Free Women of high station or caste. Free Women on Gor would be considered to possess a greater status than a typical Earth woman. Free Women, especially those of high station, are often referred to as "Lady." On the other hand, men are not referred to as "Lord" in the books. Free Women may often say what they wish, without anyone's permission, and many men will listen to what they have to say. Part of the key is that those Free Men and Women who share a Home Stone have much in common. Thus, they are more apt to listen to the thoughts and feelings of one another. Free Women may often be bold, within certain limits.
"A free woman is inordinately precious. She is a thousand times, and more, above a mere slave."
(Players of Gor, p.92)
"For example, there is no higher person, nor one more respected, than the Gorean free woman."
(Hunters of Gor, p. 311)
Free Women are rarely raped unless it is leading to direct enslavement. Even a Slaver who enslaves a Free Woman will treat her with courtesy until she has been branded. Many men find Free Women boring, preferring the company of slave girls. Free Women are seen to be ignorant, arrogant and frigid. Yet, Free Men often will take no action against a Free Woman who annoys them.
"A free woman may often make a man angry with impunity, she being lofty and free, this latitude is seldom extended to the slave." (Blood Brothers of Gor, p. 221)
A male relative or a free companion of a Free Woman does have some options to discipline her. The punishment will fit the woman's status and dignity. The books do contradict themselves as to whether Free women may be whipped or not. If so, they are whipped differently from a slave, much easier. A free companion might chain his woman to his couch, like a slave. This may occur even though a Free Woman is muchly loved. Some men do take risks to get back at a Free Woman who they feel requires punishment. This is a risk because their actions are generally illegal. One extreme example is that sometimes Free Women are captured, bound and gagged and then made to work in a brothel for a night. One key to the treatment of Free Women is their station and caste. The higher a woman's station or caste, then the more likely she will be treated with courtesy and deference. Her wealth and position are powerful factors that must be considered. A man ignores these factors at his peril. A second key is whether or not one shares a Home Stone with a woman. Those who share Home Stones generally respect and protect each other. Men do not willingly let men of other Home Stones enslave their women. They do not let their women come to harm if they can intervene and protect them. A third key is simply tolerance for the actions of Free Women. I think Tarl Cabot said it best, "It is not difficult, of course, to take insolence from a woman." (Mercenaries of Gor, p. 7) Many Gorean men will just laugh off a woman's insults.

Free Women Roles
Free Women on Gor fulfill a number of different roles, roles that essentially cannot be filled by kajirae. These are important roles, ones that contribute significantly to the effective functioning of Gorean society. These roles include positions of power, caste membership, rree companions and mothers. These roles are far more important than the role of a slave. Slaves, in general, contribute little to the operation of Gorean society. Though there are work slaves, the primary purpose of the majority of slaves is for the pleasure of men, a type of luxury. A city could exist without slaves but not without Free Women.

Positions of Power
In general, Gorean men do not prefer to place women in positions of power.
"Women, …, seldom release the following instinct in men. Men, accordingly, do not on the whole, care to follow them. In doing so they generally feel uncomfortable. It makes them uneasy. They sense the absurdity, the unnaturalness, of the relationship. It is thus that normal men commonly follow women only unwillingly, and only with reservations, usually also only within an artificial context or within the confines of a misguided, choiceless or naïve institution, where their discipline may be relied upon. Their compliance with orders in such a situation cannot help but be more critical, more skeptical. Their activities tend then to be performed with less confidence, and more hesitantly. This often produces serious consequences to the efficiency of their actions. It is interesting to note that even women seldom care to follow women, particularly in critical situations. The male, biologically, for better or for worse, appears to be the natural leader. In the perversion of nature, of course, anything may occur."
(Players of Gor, p.288)
This is a generality for which there are a number of exceptions. A Free Woman of superior ability can achieve much, including ruling a city. That is fully supported by the philosophies of Gor. Women have ruled on Gor as administrator, ubara and tatrix. An administrator is an elected position, so a woman would have to win either the vote of the high council of the city or the vote of the high castes. Tharna was led by a woman administrator until she chose to step down. An ubara is a female ruler of the Warrior Caste. She may rule as the free companion of an ubar or on her own. As the free companion of an ubar, an ubara possesses great power, second only to the ubar. There is nearly nothing she cannot accomplish with her power. An ubara, with no ubar, can rule on her own if the city supports her. Talena was made the sole ubara of Ar when Marlenus was thought dead and the Regent had been deposed. She would thus possess ultimate power within Ar. A tatrix is similar to a civil ubara. It is a female dictator who does not belong to the Warrior Caste. She remains in power only through the support of the people though she was not elected into her position. Tharna, Port Olni and Corcyrus were all ruled at one time by a tatrix. If a woman can attain the highest position in a city, its ruler, then there is no logical reason why a woman could not fill other positions of leadership within a city such as a member of the high council of castes or caste leader. There are no specific prohibitions in the books that prevent Free Women from attaining such positions. It simply takes a woman of superior ability to be found worthy of such a position. On Gor, it may be rare but it is definitely within the realm of possibility. Women may also possess power in other ways. They may own and operate their own houses, often merchant houses. Their business skills and wealth allow them to possess various degrees of power. There are a number of examples in the books of women who own houses by themselves and wield power through their wealth and status. There are no laws prohibiting their ownership of property or real estate. It is often said that merchants are power brokers within many cities. Female merchants enter into that equation as well as men.

Caste
Free Women belong to almost all of the castes on Gor except the Initiates, Players and Assassins. The books specifically state that women may not belong to the Initiate Caste. Though there is no specific prohibition in the books against women belonging to the Player and Assassin Castes, the evidence supports their exclusion. Both are castes you must actively petition to join. Mere birth does not grant one membership in those castes. The books state that generally women do not or may not play kaissa. The books also state that the Assassin Caste seeks men of a particular caliber. There is no indication that either caste permits women or has female members. Free Women are either born into their caste, assume the caste of their free companion, or petition to join a caste. Children take on the caste of their father. This permits a woman to become a member of the Warrior Caste if her father is a member. Normally, free companions share the same caste though it is permitted for people to free companion people outside of their caste. When a woman joins in free companionship, she has the option to assume the caste of her mate. She can choose to retain her caste. It is unknown if the woman retains the option to change caste throughout the length of the free companionship or if there is a time limit on her choice. Even if she retains her caste, her children will still assume the caste of their father. Women can petition to join a caste and they follow the same rules as a man would in such a petition. The high council of the city would need to approve of the change as well as the intended new caste. When you become a member of a caste, you will receive all of the normal benefits of that caste, such as caste sanctuary and charity. You generally cannot work in your caste until you complete an apprenticeship or accepted training program. You may be permitted to engage in some limited caste activities without such training but your role would always remain limited. Many women choose not to perform the work of their caste but there are numerous exceptions. In general, women do not engage in work requiring a lot of physical strength such as working at a forge, woodcutting and such. Women often work as scribes and merchants. There are even female slavers, some who engage in field captures though the majority just manage slave houses within the cities. Women also engage in work in the Physician Caste. There is a common limitation on such women. They cannot engage in the full practice of medicine until they have first given birth to two children. It is likely their function before birthing the requisite children might be akin to being a nurse. In many cities, at age fifteen, a woman of the Physician Caste will be given two bracelets to wear. She can remove one bracelet each time she has a child. When she has removed both bracelets, she may then practice medicine as a full physician. The rationale behind this prerequisite is that professional women tend not to have children. If this were allowed to occur, it would serve over time to diminish the quality and size of the caste. Thus, the rule helps to preserve the future of the caste. The welfare of the caste takes priority over the ambitions and desires of specific individuals. The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one. Caste is vitally important to Goreans so this logic is accepted as valid and is not questioned. Women may become members of the Warrior Caste by birth or Free Companionship. Yet, women are never trained by the caste to become warriors. There is no instance in any of the novels where a woman was ever trained as a warrior in the Warrior Caste. The books do not explicitly state that women are never trained as warriors, but the evidence supporting that conclusion is very compelling. Probably the most compelling argument is the same logic used by the Physician Caste. Female warriors would be less likely to reproduce and their deaths in combat would also serve to decrease the birth rate. Combined, these would tend to destroy the Warrior Caste over time, and this would never be permitted to occur.



Submission

If at any time, or for any reason, a Free Woman decides that it is in her best interest either to become a slave or to openly submit herself to a man for his protection and use, this is accomplished by the performance of a formal gesture of submission in which she invokes the ancient Gorean "rite of submission." Many Free Women would rather die than perform such a subserviant act. It is important that a Free Woman understand that when this rite is invoked, there is no going back. Typically there are only two possible outcomes when a Free Woman submits so: either she is enslaved and becomes the personal chattel of the man, his to do with as he sees fit, or she is found lacking in desirability by the man in question and is driven from him in disgrace. In the case of a warrior, the consequences are even more dire, since a warrior is not permitted by his codes to abandon the woman while she is still alive. Therefore, most warriors have no qualms whatsoever against putting the submitting woman to death on the spot. Indeed, to a warrior's mind, it is better by far to take the supplicant's life than to abandon her to be randomly enslaved by the first person who comes along. In such a situation the warrior is acting to preserve the honor of the former Free Woman and her caste and family. The way the rite is invoked is:
  • The Free Woman typically face strips herself, publicly announcing that she willingly submits to the individual she has chosen.
  • She then assumes "the position of female submission." A mat is used upon which to kneel for this. The Free Woman kneels at the man's feet. She leans back on her heels and extends arms upward, crossed at the wrists as though for binding. She lowers her head in supplication.
  • If the man accepts her, she becomes his slave and forfeits all titles, rank and property immediately. If he does not, she accepts the consequences of her actions, even if it means her death.
  • It should be obvious that a Free Woman does not invoke the Rite of Submission hastily or without serious consideration, as the very act can cost her life.